My Mom recently posted on her blog a piece about inner growth and development. It’s ironic actually.
Has anyone every considered that perhaps inner growth can destroy relationships instead of build them?
No…I didn’t think so.
I’ve never heard someone say that their relationship was obliterated because of inner growth.
Grant it, some relationships cannot withstand complete inner growth because they are built on the frailties of immaturity and lack of personal gratification. Instead those relationships rely on the continuous prevarication that I understand you and you understand me.
This is crap.
How can one understand another without the homogeneous effort to grow and develop together?
Has is become perfunctory for people to consider good relationships those that are sensational on the outside, but mutilated on the inside?
I feel broken today. Mind, body, and spirit…all broken.
Has anyone every considered that perhaps inner growth can destroy relationships instead of build them?
No…I didn’t think so.
I’ve never heard someone say that their relationship was obliterated because of inner growth.
Grant it, some relationships cannot withstand complete inner growth because they are built on the frailties of immaturity and lack of personal gratification. Instead those relationships rely on the continuous prevarication that I understand you and you understand me.
This is crap.
How can one understand another without the homogeneous effort to grow and develop together?
Has is become perfunctory for people to consider good relationships those that are sensational on the outside, but mutilated on the inside?
I feel broken today. Mind, body, and spirit…all broken.
5 comments:
I most certainly do not think good relationships are only great on the outside; all fantastic relationships have a fantastic foundation. Anything less then that will come crumbling down eventually. - RM
Have you read any Marianne Williamson, MB? I would be interested to read your reflections on "Return to Love." Its a pretty quick read, but it does speak to "inner growth" and its effect on relationships.
As a personal reflection, I admit that when I hear "inner growth" used by people, its frequently an excuse *NOT* to grow.. or an excuse to justify behaviors that some don't want to take responsibility for.
psyche,
I will look for the book and try to post my thoughts on it.
I find it very interesting what you thought of my use of "inner growth"; did you feel I was using it as an excuse? I normally focus on inner growth as ways to admit to things, learn from them, and move on in a better way.
I do not doubt that *you* refer to activities that promote the growth of the self as well as the world around you... I had meant to express my experience with people (like my mother, coincidentally) using the phrase as almost an excuse to allow themselves to be selfish without calling it that, specifically. Sometimes, as justification..
I have had such times, where I know what I want to do is inconsideratie, but it does not change my feelings - and am forced to admit that I just want to be self or do not want to encourage someone else's growth (the latter rarely, but it has happened on occaion.. lol) due to my own insecurities, etc. The thing is, its important to own up to it..
At any rate, the comment was sort of a self reflection as to the way I have heard the term used, in justifying selfishness whther it be growth-oriented or not, and not meant to be an observation of how *you* were using it in the post itself. The relationship to your post was more the regret that others *don't* define or use "inner growth" you way you have here.
I hope that clarifies! :)
~Psyche
Thank you psyche! I enjoy hearing someone else say that it's okay to be selfish, just own up to it.
I LOVE THAT!
It's music to my ears and instantly put a smile on my face. Someone else agrees that it's okay to be selfish from time to time, just be honest about it!
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