Are you a knight in shining armor…or just a guy with a plastic knife and a bicycle?
I find importance in knowing the difference between rescuing and protecting. Relationships have boundaries, fine lines between actions similar in intentions. You can be rescued, or you can be protected. What’s the difference?
Everyone wants to feel saved. It’s a nice feeling. It takes away the feeling of insecurity and removes the responsibility of resolution from the shoulders of those being rescued. The victim is relieved of their duty; all they need to do is sit back and watch their rescuer take care of business.
“Knights” rescue people. They ride gallantly into town and rescue the princess from demise, then gallop into the sunset and live happily ever after.
Okay, someone watches too much Disney.
Who wants to be rescued?!
We are adults. We don’t need to be rescued. What we need is to feel protected. Rescue me…or prevent a reason to be rescued?
I think what we are really looking for is someone to protect us from those experiences. We want a man who will keep us safe and help us avoid those terrible occurrences.
It isn’t a matter of being noble and fighting to the end. It’s about protecting loved ones from entering into situations that will harm them. Don’t go out and fight every person who has ever done them harm; keep them from being harmed in the future.
In return those loved ones will see you as their “knight in shining armor” without all the sappy Disney music!
I find importance in knowing the difference between rescuing and protecting. Relationships have boundaries, fine lines between actions similar in intentions. You can be rescued, or you can be protected. What’s the difference?
Everyone wants to feel saved. It’s a nice feeling. It takes away the feeling of insecurity and removes the responsibility of resolution from the shoulders of those being rescued. The victim is relieved of their duty; all they need to do is sit back and watch their rescuer take care of business.
“Knights” rescue people. They ride gallantly into town and rescue the princess from demise, then gallop into the sunset and live happily ever after.
Okay, someone watches too much Disney.
Who wants to be rescued?!
We are adults. We don’t need to be rescued. What we need is to feel protected. Rescue me…or prevent a reason to be rescued?
I think what we are really looking for is someone to protect us from those experiences. We want a man who will keep us safe and help us avoid those terrible occurrences.
It isn’t a matter of being noble and fighting to the end. It’s about protecting loved ones from entering into situations that will harm them. Don’t go out and fight every person who has ever done them harm; keep them from being harmed in the future.
In return those loved ones will see you as their “knight in shining armor” without all the sappy Disney music!
1 comment:
Disney movies are good like The Ugly Dachshund :), but for the sake of this topic I don't want to stray so far from the content. Knights like everyone stumble and make bad choices. Some start as boys with plastic knives and bicycles but they attain lessons learned to rise to be a more noble and heroic being.. Some guys do want to be the one who protects his significant other from harm. They have the willingness to risk their very last breath for that person. Even when Lancelot befouled the ones he loved, he was still there till the end for the ones he cared about. In the end.. the most gratifying thing a knight ever knows is that the damsel he loved and/or loves feels safety and comfort in his arms. There has never been a finer compliment than to hear "I feel safe with you"
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